Is It Really Too Much To Ask… Seriously?!!
If two of the kids in a preschool class have food allergies, and there’s a birthday party with cupcakes the allergic kids can’t eat, how hard is it to drop the parents’ of the allergic kids a simple email to let them know, so the parents of the allergic children can bring cupcakes in for their own kids?
I don’t expect every mom to bake a special way for my own son (although many of the moms have done that). I just would have liked an email so I could have brought something in — so my son and another kid wouldn’t have been stuck eating just fruit while everyone else had cupcakes.
Not in their defense at all, just hoping to make you feel better… Do the other parents know that there are 2 kids w/ food allergies? I wouldn’t necessarily know that about the other kids at preschool, maybe those parents don’t either?
But yes, that’s a total drag for your son! Maybe the teachers would let you leave a non-perishable stash of goodies in the classroom for days like this?
Comment by Plain Jane Mom — Monday, March 19, 2007 @ 1:06 pm
The parent definitely knows, and I have a good relationship with her (usually!) but this really made me mad.
I am not going to confront her, though.
I’m just going to bake cupcakes and stick them in the school freezer.
Comment by Kira — Monday, March 19, 2007 @ 1:10 pm
This is your secret way of confronting her until she reads this site:)
Comment by Sheri — Monday, March 19, 2007 @ 1:29 pm
Am I to assume from this that you’re supposed to feed them other things besides Alpo? I have so much to learn before I can become a parent.
Comment by tfg — Monday, March 19, 2007 @ 11:56 pm
You really need to just work this out with the school.
If you kindly ask the administrators or teachers to make it a policy to provide them with notice when they will be bringing in a birthday treat, they most likely will.
The other parents may feel more comfortable letting the teacher know rather than the allergy parents.
If all you need is a little notice, you will likely get it.
I dont think your asking too much, the question is–have you really asked?
Take care,
Gina
www.allergymoms.com
Comment by GinaClowes — Tuesday, March 20, 2007 @ 8:46 am
Hello,
My daughter has had quite a few allergies, some of which she has now grown out of. But a major allergy was egg, for a long time, and I used to bake nut and egg free (and sometimes milk free) muffins and cupcakes en-masse, freeze some and bring those frozen ones into preschool, bagged and labeled, so that on birthday days the teacher could pull one out and my girl wouldn’t have to miss out on party food. It is hard but I took the ‘driving defensively’ attitude, i.e, that most parents wouldn’t really understand about food allergies and therefore I would be pro-active about her allergies. Thankfully in Australia now, there seems to be more information and acceptance about food allergies, and people are more careful these days (at kid’s parties, at least) to ensure that kids with allergies are catered for, or at least that those foods that a child is allergic to are not at the party.
Good luck!!
Cheerio, Melissa
Comment by Melissa — Monday, April 16, 2007 @ 7:29 am